Infidelity: Catch Them Cheating and Survive by S. Horth
Price: $24.95 for a limited time
Rating: *****
Advantages:
- Gives a practical plan that you can easily follow to find out if you partner is cheating – with much of the information given backed up with solid research and experts’ advice.
- It is written in a direct easy-to-read style and there is little padding or repetition.
- Includes interviews and case-studies of people going through the same thing as you.
- Includes interviews and quotes from cheaters so you can get inside your partner’s head and see how their thinking has changed with the affair.
- Includes up-to-date information on monitoring your partner through their phone and computer – with easy to follow instructions and an online Computer Sleuth Mastery Course.
- The full book is available as a podcast so if you do not have time to read, you are still able to access the information.
- Everything promised in the sales page is delivered.
Disadvantages:
- We enjoyed the stories and case-studies and would like to see even more in the next edition.
- Although she presents both sides of the story, the author has been through being cheated on and is obviously biased toward breaking up.
The Bonuses
The book comes with 4 bonuses:
- Free life-time membership to the Infidelity: Catch Them Cheating resources site: This frequently updated site is full of all the extra information you might need on your ‘Catch a Cheat’ campaign. She does not include keylogger software and instead links to a safe and reputable company’s free trial – I recommend this approach. It is much safer for you and your computer. There is information about computer monitoring, phone monitoring, recommended books and websites, and whole lot of other great information.
- Podcast of the book: For all those people too busy to read, this is a great bonus. You can download or listen to the book online – saving you lots of time as you can listen as you drive to work, or as you exercise. An excellent addition!
- Computer Sleuth Mastery Course: For all those technopphobes out there, this course gives you step by step instructions on how to check things on your partner’s computer – it includes screen shots so you can see what you are meant to be doing.
- Personal Email Coaching: Get help from someone who has been through what you are going through – get feedback on your situation and what you should be doing next. Great service to make this campaign fit your personal situation
The eBook Contents
This book is 80 pages long, which is a little shorter than a few of the other books I looked at, but has little padding and instead is packed with information – so I consider it excellent value and a faster read. I don’t enjoy books that repeat themselves just to pad out the page numbers and this book does not do that . It is split into ten steps with 12 chapters and Horth uses quotes, bullet points, highlighted tips, and interviews throughout the book, making it very easy to read and understand.
The ten steps covered in the book are:
Step 1: Set Up Your Campaign
This short chapter covers the preparation you need to do before starting out: making sure you have support, having a place to keep your evidence, keeping your sanity!
Step 2: Identify the Signs
This is a longer chapter and brings together the 20 main signs of cheating into one detailed list. You will know exactly when you should start to be worried about your partner’s behavior. Many of the signs are illustrated with real-life examples, so you can really understand what they mean.
Step 3: Understand Their Attitude
This is one area that you don’t see covered in many books on cheating, this chapter looks at how the cheating partner is excusing their behavior, Horth calls it ‘the fog’ where the cheater rationalizes their cheating and loses themselves in the haze that comes with lust. Again filled with interesting examples so you can really see how your cheating partner is fooling themselves.
Step 4: Learn About Liars
This is a shorter chapter and gives you research-based information on the difficulties of spotting a liar and why you need evidence.
Step 5: Break Their Alibi
This is the start of the section on collecting evidence that your partner is cheating. It looks at how to monitor and check up on your partner’s stories in a methodical way.
Step 6: Go CSI On Their Ass
At 22 pages, this is the longest chapter of the book. In it Horth gives you all the tactics you need to build a body of evidence about your partner’s affair. She focuses on four areas :
- Computer
- Phone
- Car
- Money
She gives you detailed instructions on how to go about gathering evidence in these four areas (but gives you information about other areas as well) and links in with the free membership site that comes with these ebooks for additional information. This is all supported with real-life examples of how others have gotten through this stage.
Step 7: Confront Your Cheater
This chapter covers how to approach your cheater to get the best results and what to expect from your own emotions.
Step 8: Assess The Risks
This chapter looks at the risks of reconciliation and what signs to look for in your partner that shows they are truly remorseful and not lying any more. It gives you the requirements that need to be met by your partner (and you) if you are thinking about staying together.
Step 9: Make A Decision
Bringing together experts’ opinions on how to make informed decisions, this chapter gives you the steps you need to take to be able to make what might be one of the most difficult decisions of your life – to stay or to go. These are research-based tactics on how to finally decide what you are going to do with the information you have found – not an easy thing to go through!
Step 10: Take Time To Heal
The book wraps up with a chapter on caring for yourself in this difficult time – there are case-studies of what other people have done to deal with the stress of working out what is going on in your relationship – these interviews are great, as you really can see how others were stressed but have coped. There are some tactics here that I hadn’t thought of (one very important one to do with dealing with your partner while they are still in the fog) as well as many useful caring suggestions that we can all hear again while we are in this stressed out state.
Conclusion
At $24.95 this package is great value for money – quite a bit cheaper than other books but probably filled with more information. It has to be one of our top choices for cheating resources. Full of information and support. The two things that really stood out for us were that there are so many real-life stories – it helps you to see what you should be doing and makes you realise that you are not alone in dealing with this; and that the advice was logical and so easy-to-follow.
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